In December 2022 we found out we were five weeks pregnant. I had a low-risk pregnancy, so we decided to go on holiday to Tunisia at 25 weeks. The week before we left, I saw what I thought was a mucus plug with a bit of blood, so we rang the paramedics. They came and rang the maternity assessment unit but they said we shouldn’t be concerned, and that everything was normal.
We double-checked that we could still go on holiday and were told again that it was okay. So we went away for a week, but when we came home, we were both ill with a bug and my waters broke at 26 weeks. It was so unexpected – one morning we woke up and found water and more blood.
As new parents, when we saw blood, we assumed the worst but the maternity unit at Leicester Royal Infirmary confirmed that our baby’s heartbeat was okay, movement was still there and instead, my waters had broken.
So many questions were running through our heads - how are we going to prepare for what’s to come? Is our baby going to be formed properly?
Initially I was kept in hospital for two days, our baby was monitored and was doing well. They explained that if I was going to give birth, it would be in the first 48 hours of my waters breaking. In the end, the doctor sent me home as if nothing had happened. The trouble was that I normally commuted to work in Nottingham but the doctors told me to rest, so I had to take my maternity leave straight away.
My contractions started the night after and I started to get a bit more pain. Wasim drove us to the hospital at around 11pm where we found out that I was two centimetres dilated. I remember just being sat in the waiting room and I felt a gush of blood. Every time I dilated I was losing blood, but the medical team was calm.
Riyadh didn’t arrive until 24 hours later. During that time, because it was just us in the delivery room, we asked my mum to come for support, as the whole experience was really scary. My parents drove two hours to Leicester to be with us.
Wasim and I asked the medical staff lots of questions because we wanted reassurance. For people who have never been through parenthood before, and especially being a parent to a premature baby, it’s so nerve-wracking.
I gave birth to Riyadh at 27 weeks, at 9pm on 18 May 2023. I was pushing and everything was fine, but at the last minute all I heard was a doctor say: “No, don't push, stop.” I was terrified and in pain, and then the next thing I knew was I was getting wheeled to theatre, thinking I was going to have to have a c-section.
Luckily, I kept pushing and he came out. The doctor explained after that my placenta had abrupted, so our baby’s heart rate was dropping, as was mine. They needed to get Riyadh out as quickly as possible.
After giving birth they asked me if I wanted to see Riyadh but because I was so worried, I wanted to put his life first. I kept asking, “Is he okay?” but they couldn’t confirm anything. After they wheeled me out of theatre, they showed him to me.
He was absolutely tiny, the size of a hand. He had a little hat on and was wrapped in a plastic bag. When I look back, there are funny memories too – for example, we knew we were having a boy, but one of the doctors said, “She's so beautiful!”, before confirming that he definitely was a boy. I panicked because I’d bought all blue clothes!
Then the doctors wheeled me back to my delivery suite, and at around two o'clock in the morning, we saw him for the first time. We were patient and allowed the medical professionals to stabilise him.